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Soft Eyes – Looking out of the corner of our eyes

Soft Eyes – Looking out of the corner of our eyes

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Tornado in the Doorway

Tornado in the Doorway

I alert people to what they will experience once they start applying  stress reduction techniques to their most stressful situations. Frequently, things feel worse! How could this be? I thought stress reduction techniques work by cooling things down such as  stress hormones or our emotional brain systems. Cooling should make us feel less anxious, confused, angry, defensive, etc., right? As beginners,  our anxiety can increase and our bodies can feel pretty bad. I think this happens for a couple of reasons:…

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Easing into Meditation

Easing into Meditation

I hear this all the time: “I’ve tried meditation but I just don’t get anywhere because I can’t slow my mind down. I can’t relax.” Not unusual since most of us start this way.  I was never given much instruction, nor did I see others getting advice about how to ease into meditation.  The instruction  was all about meditating itself. As a beginner, I was expected to come into the hall, take my cushion and get down to hard work….

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Truth: Powerful techniques can be learned and mastered quickly

Truth: Powerful techniques can be learned and mastered quickly

The media has exposed us to all sorts of exotic, hard-to-learn, long-time to master methods of stress management. Zen masters, biofeedback pros, hypnosis experts, and yoga gurus have their place and make great copy but they don’t have the corner on all things related to stress.  Learning a few simple and powerful techniques can change your life.  Got two minutes? Learn the following techniques.  Spend some time to master them and  you will have three friends for life. Find Yourself…

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Squeeze Stress Away. Thank you, Dorothy Sarnoff

Squeeze Stress Away. Thank you, Dorothy Sarnoff

We have talked about the power of muscles before. At that time we focused on the profound and positive affects of relaxing muscles.  If we turn off muscle tension, we quiet a large collection of heavy working brain wiring. That tells the brain, “Hey, nothing much is happening….relax.” This time, we will look at the power we can have over stress when muscles are strongly flexed. The Sarnoff Squeeze Singer and actress Dorothy Sarnoff (NYT bio) noticed that Yul Brynner…

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Inside or Outside? Where to Put Your Focus

Inside or Outside? Where to Put Your Focus

We need an inside/outside strategy in our back pocket, ready to employ whenever our stress level is too high, or potentially headed that way. An inside strategy would involve turning inward to a large, small or moderate degree, and then doing something there.  It could be doing visualization of a calming place, person, object, pet, song, etc. It could involve watching our breathing, or doing a body scan to see how we are feeling emotionally and bodily (and both). Frequently,…

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Finding and Following En-Trancing Found Sounds

Finding and Following En-Trancing Found Sounds

Most people have some sound, natural or man-made, that they know can grab their minds and en-trance it. Gentle rainfall, a fan, crickets chirping, a train passing, a rocking chair. The common features of these en-trancing found sounds is a fairly steady rhythm that is seduces our mind and emotions into following it. Just following. No need to be critical of anything. How can you be critical of ocean waves, hmm of a hair dryer, or a car moving down…

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The Three Buckets of Sanity

The Three Buckets of Sanity

Just as boxes can be helpful in time of stress, buckets are important, too. Most stressors just won’t go away. We can wish that they would disappear, but they won’t. We can demand that they stop (“Damn it, traffic jam, go away right now because I say so!!!”) but most won’t go running.  We can keep up our raging, demanding, and striving to change all things to fit our wishes, or we can take a few moments to look at stressors…

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