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When Problems Just Go Away

When Problems Just Go Away

It is shocking when problems “just go away” after practicing a powerful technique. I’m not talking about while feeling good in the midst of using a technique but afterwards.

Eye Movement stress clearing comes on fast, very fast (like under a minute). Suddenly a troubling thought, feeling, or visualization goes, goes somewhere but in our head, heart, or body.

Self-hypnosis has a way of doing its thing so quietly in the background we frequently forget not only the problem but that we used hypnosis to get rid of it! “What are you talking about? I never had a problem with that. You must be thinking of someone else.”

Mantra meditation tunes our emotional reactivity way down. Quietly but firmly inner resources that had been hidden away come into the foreground. Our thinking is astonishingly clearer. We see more options out of nowhere. We a natural confidence pops up.   What was overwhelming before we started mantra meditation seems like no big thing.

Alpha production practices have the same general effects as mantra meditation but also release large amounts of positivity. Positivity should not be confused with positive thinking. Positivity is a natural upwelling of good mood and capabilities such as heightened creativity, optimism, and a connection to the world that makes us want to approach life problems. Goodbye to avoidance or running away.

This does feel weird when it happens to us the first few times.Can this be true? Can we feel good even while thinking about our problems?  Where did all these options come from? Confidence? Wow.

These techniques, few in number, are what I call: the ultimate techniques. The get to the heart of stress-relaxation and give us everything we are seeking.

This sounds too good to be true, but it is a common side-effect of these very special techniques. It will happen to you, too.





“Why I Don’t Relax” Myth: All Relaxation Techniques Cause Dullness and Sleepiness

“Why I Don’t Relax” Myth: All Relaxation Techniques Cause Dullness and Sleepiness

The media and relaxation experts get the blame for this one. In the media we see images of people asleep, in hamocks, beaches, and blissed out alongside articles on relaxation methods. So there it is: if you do this, you will get that. Experts play up the most dramatic effects of relaxation.

Truth: Relaxation comes in many mind/body effects and levels

In reality, relaxation covers a broad territory of bodily and mental effects. It can: calm the body but cause the mind to be alert; it can calm the mind and the body; it can calm the emotions and leave the mind and body energized; it can calm the body and leave the mind and emotions aroused. Also, there are many levels of relaxation. The levels include: just taking the edge off, mildly calming, moderately relaxed, to profoundly relaxed-out. Some will leave a person sleepy, but many levels and effects are not in that direction at all.

Truth: Relaxation techniques can be used both to increase alertness and to decrease alertness 

Pro athletes, pro performers, military special forces use relaxation techniques to stay focused in the midst of the action. They use simple methods that can be quickly brought up but provide profound actions in the body and mind. Others, who suffer from sleeplessness or anxiety, can use the same techniques to reduce their problems.

Truth: Relaxation can chase away dullness and sleepiness

Some of our fatigue and dullness comes from holding too tight of focus on our external and internal lives. We get stuck in this mode and relaxation can open us back up to a broader vision. In doing so, our fatigue can lift nearly instantly and we are able to see, think, and do like we never thought we could just moments before.

Truth: Relaxation frequently doesn’t cause dullness and sleepiness, chronic tiredness does

Relaxation techniques often get the blame for knocking people out but it is our choices that do that. If we don’t get adequate sleep, don’t set aside time for rest and recovery, don’t take time to go inside our own skin to find out what’s going on and what we truly need, we are in a chronic state of tiredness. We may not feel it all the time but it is there. Jacking ourselves up with caffeine, rush here/rush there activities, and the desire to be highly active can mask some of this tiredness (for awhile), but it is there.

A well-rested person can enjoy and actually be perked up by most relaxation techniques. A chronically tired person is going to start to doze off or at least become dull the moment they are given a chance to slow down, be in a quiet place that is not for frantic activity. In fact, one of the earliest tests for sleep deprivation was having a person recline in a darkened room and the length of time that passed without them falling asleep was recorded. This testing wasn’t in the middle of the night, but in broad daylight, on a typical day for the person to be tested. The chronically tired person konked out in minutes; a non-chronically sleep deprived could sail through the full test period of 20 minutes without going off into sleep land.

Truth: Relaxation can be scaled to provide reduced stress but not dullness/sleepiness

When we actually become skilled at relaxation, we end up applying min-doses of de-stressing throughout our regular daily activities. A bit of dosing cuts the edge of impatience, confusion, and anxiety. A small dose does not lead to the profound change of mindset that comes from applying the same technique for longer time periods or under conditions when a person can let go (i.e. during meditation sessions). The technique is skillfully used just to the level the person wants and no more.