Finding and Following En-Trancing Found Sounds

Most people have some sound, natural or man-made, that they know can grab their minds and en-trance it. Gentle rainfall, a fan, crickets chirping, a train passing, a rocking chair. The common features of these en-trancing found sounds is a fairly steady rhythm that is seduces…

The Three Buckets of Sanity

Just as boxes can be helpful in time of stress, buckets are important, too. Most stressors just won’t go away. We can wish that they would disappear, but they won’t. We can demand that they stop (“Damn it, traffic jam, go away right now because I say…

The Three Boxes of Stress Control

I use three boxes to keep myself sane. When I’m alert enough to catch myself in loop of anger, worry, regret, or facing a major change that I don’t know how to handle,  I drop my problem in one of the three boxes. It took a…

The Three Fires of Stress

Stress is like fire. Our attitudes, thinking, feeling, and the sensations in our body, can  feel like a fire out of control.  The analogy gets more solid when we think about what is happening under stress: our fight or flight system gets cooking; our emotions crank…

Quieting Inner Chatter and Dimming Inner Visions – Which Muscles to Relax

Edmund Jacobson gave us Progressive Relaxation to calm our minds through quieting our muscles. In his life-long process of refining Progressive Relaxation he found a profound, rapid, and easy way for getting control of two disturbing activities that we all have: inner chatter and troubling inner visions.…

Muscle Man, Edmund Jacobson

Edmund Jacobson devoted his life to muscles. This journey started when he was in a fire at the age of 10. He made it through the fire unscathed but he was marked deeply by it anyway. He observed previously calm adults switch into full emergency mode…

Put Your Mask On First – How to Truly Help Others and Your Self

For decades we have been instructed: In the event the cabin loses pressure, oxygen masks will drop down.  Put your mask on first before trying to help children or others who need assistance with their masks. Makes sense: stay conscious, stay helpful. Outside of planes, we…

Easy Starts: How to Jump Into Meditation

I’m frequently asked what are the best books for starting meditation. I have settled on a short list of resources. Two of them are listed here: The Calm Technique: Meditation Without Magic or Mysticism – Australian Paul Wilson came out with this book some time ago…

The Smile Powerhouse

Photos of smiling nuns taken when they came into religious service when they were in their early 20s, reveal which will live the longest. The right type of smile, wrong type of smile, it makes a difference. While conducting research on the physiology of facial expressions…